Is this emotional abuse?

My husband and I have been married for 18 years. Over the years he has changed alot (as I have too). I gained weight having my children (3, all two years apart), but lost it later. I have now gained it back. He doesn't seem to have a major problem with my weight, however, he has a problem with EVERYTHING else. He fusses at the kids and me constantly. His latest rant is over closing the bathroom doors so the bedroom will stay cooler. He is right, the bedroom stays cooler, but having a rant about it, really. He also blames me for all the financial issues that we have. I work fulltime, and have just taken a part-time job. He is working in a job he hates, but refuses to look for another one. He is either very loving or completely withholds affection. He ignores me often, and sometimes, well alot, will make a joke at my expense. Lately, no matter how much I dress up, he will not tell me I look nice. It does seem that i cannot do anything right and neither can the kids. I told him he was angry all the time and needed to possibly get help,,,,now I will pay for that for days. I have probably sugar coated this alittle, just want to hear another person's perspective.